Talking to a group of young TS women lately there was an issue raised that I believe is worth opening for discussion. There was a consensus within the group that as TS women we are often treated like children, infantalised, viewed as incapable. It could be assumed this is due to our reduced heights. I know I was asked for I.D for purchasing alcohol right up until my late twenties and even on occasion to this day. I choose to see that as a compliment. I guess, physically, it can be an easy mistake to make.
Some of these young women didn’t share this view though. They spoke of how their own families treat them like children. Some of them were even concerned it was off putting for romantic partners. My own life experiences differed in this sense. Even as a small child I was always encouraged by doctors, teachers etc. to assert myself. I was taught that communication was key. I was always well received and my thoughts respected. If they weren’t it was an issue I had no problem putting right. It gave me cause to think though and if this same experience was shared by these women, how many others? Do you, as a TS woman, feel you’re infantalised? Do you feel you are still treated like a child on the basis of a short stature? It is a discussion worth opening and I would love to hear your thoughts.
My point through this is to know your own worth. If you feel you are being patronised or given the ‘incapable’ cold shoulder, through TS or otherwise, don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself. Those with TS are vibrant, creative and dedicated women.
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